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Leelah, can you see?

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Leelah Alcorn. 14 years old. A transgender suicide. A story that broke my heart. Born Josh, a gender identified male, to a well-meaning family. In rural Ohio. To a conservative Christian family.
Leelah threw herself in front of a truck. Her mother announced on social media that her son Josh had been accidentally hit by a truck. Even in death, her family wasn’t supportive. In my opinion.

The following is from Leelah’s suicide note:

“When I was 14, I learned what transgender meant and cried of happiness. After 10 years of confusion I finally understood who I was. I immediately told my mom, and she reacted extremely negatively, telling me that it was a phase, that I would never truly be a girl, that God doesn’t make mistakes, that I am wrong. If you are reading this, parents, please don’t tell this to your kids. Even if you are Christian or are against transgender people don’t ever say that to someone, especially your kid. That won’t do anything but make them hate them self. That’s exactly what it did to me.”

— Leelah Alcorn, 2014

I know what it’s like to grow up feeling you are different. Leelah’s story touched me. And the world.

The outpouring of emotion has been amazing. Around the world, vigils and candlelight marches have taken place. From Columbus Circle in NYC to Auckland, New Zealand. Hundreds have rallied around the idea of trans-youth, and the heartbreak of suicide. Last night, at the GOLDEN GLOBES, Jill Soloway, writer of the TV show TRANSPARENT dedicated the award to Leelah.

In her suicide note, Leelah asked that her death not be meaningless. She asked, basically, and I’m paraphrasing, to “fix society”.

It ain’t fixed Leelah. But, my sweet girl, it’s changing. I hope you can see, from where you are, it’s changing. I, for one, will never forget you. Rest little one.

-Paul Jacek

Peppermint Oil does not vaccinate your kids

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DO NOT get me started. My kid’s doctor and I will not mention who they are, has lots of clients in the very enviable parts of the valley. There are parents that refuse to vaccinate their kids and our doctor is put in a very precarious position. I commend the doctors that turn away clients who don’t want to vaccinate their kids. It truly puts the whole practice at risk. I am for alternative remedies in some cases, but honestly, peppermint oil does not cure EBOLA or Measles. There I said it.

-Mary Kennedy
9 cases of measles confirmed in California


I want to work on patience.

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I’m a terrible wait-er. I’m a good server. But I’m a terrible wait-er. I want things when I want them. & I want them now. In this new year I am looking forward to not living at screaming shrieking panic that everything is not going my way. I have got more patience as I’ve gotten older. One of the great things of the partnership / friendship that Mary and I share is: we are developing patience.

We approach our work in a similar way. Mary” gets sh-t done”. With a clear cut plan, I’m on it. The success that we have had has come from sharing ideas and talking it through.

So, I know it can happen. I just want it now!

-Paul Jacek


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How is it, a single man, (widowed, actually) has so many clothes? I need many for a lot of the things I do, but REALLY! There must be a better way!

A few years ago, I was doodling about on the internet. I came upon a link to “”. What fun I thought, it’s probably an old flight attendant blog. WELL! Imagine my surprise when I was introduced to Marla Cilley, the Flylady. This woman has done more for the home than electricity! I was blown away!
Quite simply, Flylady will help you to get a handle on your life. EVERY AREA! From home maintenance to laundry, to getting the kids ready for school, and GETTING READY FOR THE HOLIDAYS!

As I began to read and absorb some of her suggestions, I found my day moving easily. WHO DOESN’T HAVE ROOM FOR THAT? The root, or base of her suggestions? Routines. Now, I was raised by amazing folks. My mother, grandmother, and aunt were amazing housekeepers. My father was a hoarder. We had a set of harness for a team of four horses. It hung in the garage. For 35 years. After his death, my brother disposed of them.

I fall somewhere in the middle. As a personal assistant to executives, I’m wonderfully organized for YOU, but for myself….not so much. Flylady encourages you to do babysteps. As I did them, I found myself feeling freedom!

Mary and I discussed having Marla on to share with us her amazing success. She is the author of books, one I love, SINK REFLECTIONS. As I checked her website, I saw that she was coming to Southern California for a book signing. I thought I’d extend the invitation in person. OMG! I got to the shopping center, and the line was OUTSIDE the bookstore, and snaked it’s way across the parking lot. MARLA IS A STAR!

As I listened to people, and a diverse crowd it was, middle-aged ladies, younger women, college students, and some older men. The buzz in the crowd was as if we were waiting for a major celebrity.
I managed to get into the store, and was once again, amazed. Such goodwill and gratitude these people had for her. Her techniques, and routines had really changed lives.

When Marla took the mic, the roar was as if I were at a stadium! Poor Flylady had a cold, but knew how important it was to those who had waited for her. Warm and friendly, and so kind. I was charmed! I didn’t want to add to her already hectic day, but I got close enough to wink at her! We contacted Marla, and she came on our show. She is a breath of fresh air, and, such wonderful, simple advice! Changed my life.

– Paul Jacek

Happy New Year!

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The holidays are over! I don’t know if I should cheer or be sad.

I always mean to be more organized, and more ready for the holiday season, but it always comes as a surprise! My sweet Aunt used to say, “Christmas is Dec 25, EVERY YEAR!”
Then again, she was organized. Did a load of candy and cookie making, and made boxes of yummy things to send to relatives in Colorado. (She lived in California) Had all of her gifts and goodies ready to mail near the 1st part of the month.
I confess, I’ve been awful about it. It’s my true hope that the end of the year of 2015 will find me ready. Looking forward to a bright new year! So much fun stuff we have planned at the “OH, MARY!” SHOW!

This will give YOU, our sweet viewers, tons of things to see and do! Mary and I have talked about doing a tour. Would you like us to visit your town? Let us know! We are looking at calenders!!!!

My personal wish, for all ya all, is a healthy, happy, prosperous New Year!

– Paul Jacek

We have a new home!

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The Oh, Mary! show is proud to announce we’ve moved into our very own studio! We’ve even started filming our new episodes, so get ready for some all new Oh, Mary! fun coming soon.

Mary and Paul have been busy!!!

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Mary, just put up her play 36 PLOTS at the EL PORTAL, Directed by Charlene Ward, Starring, Mary Kennedy and Marsha Musial. Produced by Rene Pena. Paul appeared in ONE, a compilation of articles from the ONE Gay, Lesbian and Transgender Archive at USC, Directed by Zsa Zsa Gershick.

Mary is also currently in a National HULU Commercial.

You can catch Mary and Paul live always, at 7pm PST or 10pm EST, Tuesdays at, Channel 2.

That’s Just Not Funny-The “Oh Mary!” Radio Show’s Ever Popular Segment

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Each week join Mary and Paul, as they discuss current topics, funny or not? You decide.


Gun Range and Saloon
Banning Babies from Restaurants, Popular Artisan bakery kicks out Toddler-Squeaky shoes
Extreme cold, forces escaped convict to find warmth back in prison!
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Oh, Mary! Show with Hosts Mary Kennedy and Paul Jacek Discuss Is this the Future You Dreamed of?

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It is 2013, the Mayan calendar ended but the world didn’t, so join, your Host, Mary Kennedy and your Co-Host, Paul Jacek, live in studio. WE DISCUSS: IS THIS THE FUTURE YOU DREAMED OF? If not, what can you do to get to those goals? We are not talking resolutions, we are talking practical steps into making your future dreams reality. Join us won’t you? Check out our new website, by Aaron C. Yeagle,

We discussed this article from Psychology Today: Depression is horrible in part because it cuts you off from your future or, more precisely, your sense of the future. The bleakness of the present is so oppressive just because you can’t imagine an alternative for tomorrow.

I personally know how depressing life can feel without a sense of brightness up ahead. It’s something I struggle with occasionally as I continue to reorganize my life after loss and seek the kind of companionship with which I can ride happily into the proverbial sunset.


Paul really liked this article from WikiHow: “I really want to make it in life, but I don’t know how!” Not knowing how to set up for a successful future can be frustrating. Here are a few suggestions.

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Born to Sing My Song (Theme from “Oh, Mary, Please”) Raising Funds for March of Dimes thru Jan. 31

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The “Oh, Mary!” Radio Show, debuts, the theme song, for the radio Sitcom, “Oh, Mary!” Please … BORN TO SING MY SONG!

Written, Produced and Performed, by John Paul Cappiello, Vocals by Brenda DiGirolamo, Co-Produced and horns arranged by Alfonso DiGirolamo, Featuring the Norman Horms.

In honor of the holiday season, please buy this song for 99 cents, at in memory of Andrew Thomas Norcoss, a preemie who passed away at just 13 weeks, nearly half of the sales of this song, will be donated to the March of Dimes.

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